Choosing your wedding day style

Choosing your Makeup and Hairstyle for your wedding day can be daunting, especially if you’re not used to doing much with your every day beauty. I’ve put together this little guide to give you a head start on how to choose some looks to bring with you to your trial and get a feel for what will work best for you.

Your everyday style: If you’re known to rock a red lip or have been wearing cat eye liner your whole life, you probably shouldn't do minimalist makeup for your wedding day. And if you never ever wear anything but tinted moisturizer and clear mascara, heavy makeup might feel very disjointed for you. How do you normally wear your makeup or hair for a regular night out, how about for when you attend a wedding? Keep your personal vibe in mind but don’t be afraid to go a bit stronger than usual. You still want to feel like you, but it might also be the one day you really do it up, whatever that is for you.

Hair color & length, eye color & skin tone: Some makeup suits blue eyes better while other styles suit green or brown eyes better. When searching for inspiration sometimes putting your eye color or hair color into the search can give you better ideas of what looks best with your coloring. Warm skin tones also often look better with warmer colors where pink undertones and paler tones often look good with cooler toned makeup. Hair styles look very different depending on the length, cut and color of your hair, some styles look very textured for blondes but can be a bit less dimensional on dark brunette hair, it often helps give a better visual if you put “brunette updo” rather than just “bridal updo” when you search for photos since it can vary the end result so much.

The overall vibe of your wedding: Where will you say “I do”? Does it look like a castle, an estate or will it be oceanside, or in a forest? What season will it be? Consider the setting, your vision for the day like your venue, florals or rental elements when planning your hair and makeup. If your venue and details are glamorous and over the top you don’t want the makeup to fall flat next to them, you can probably spare to be a bit more bold in your beauty choices. If you’re outside, softer might be better.

Dress style: Consider your dress when thinking about your hair and makeup. A higher neckline can look very good with your hair up and really showcase that feature, as well as a sleeveless, off the shoulder or cap sleeve looks very good with down styles. Blush tones in your dress might make you want to pull in soft pinks and champagne and go a bit softer. If your dress is very lacy or ornate with appliqués or crystals you may want a simpler more neutral makeup to let the dress shine or you may want to go bold with your lashes and hair extensions and go for a fuller glam to complement the intricate nature of your dress. Vintage feeling dress styles often feel more complete with a modern vintage hair and makeup style; same with a soft feminine dress with soft feminine makeup/hair.

Pinterest can be a great resource for inspiration images, here’s a link to my curated Bridal Beauty board to give you some ideas and jumping off points.

The Wedding Morning - What to Expect

Its finally here! The day you’ve been planning for months (or maybe even years!) and its finally time to get yourself ready for this special moment. Heres exactly what to expect the morning of the big day:

  • Arrival time: I (and any supporting makeup and hair team members) will show up and begin setting up to get everyone ready. Depending on your getting ready location this may require some furniture rearranging or setting up some folding tables or tall folding chairs when in hotels or at your home, or it might just be us opening up our kits and laying out products when you’re getting ready at your venue’s bridal suite. If you’re in a home or hotel please make sure we have access to electrical outlets and lots of space to work, especially if you have a large group getting ready.

  • Next, we will start to call our first clients on our schedules - we strongly recommend you have all people receiving services there at the same time, this helps keep everything running smoothly (We know there can be extenuation circumstances so its not always possible especially if one person has young children or lives far away or is really not a morning person, if thats the case let us know while we make your schedule so we can account for those issues but whenever possible its always best to have all people there so if theres an unexpected hiccup we can substitute anyone else in and keep everything moving. We also recommend scheduling younger and older clients towards the end of your schedule like grandparents and flower girls for similar reasons).

  • All makeup is applied except lips, those are applied during touch up time so everyone can drink and eat and not have to worry about messing much up. Everyone also gets a final check at the end during touchups right before photos start to fix any issues that may have arisen and to make sure skin isn’t shiny, concealer is still good, etc..

  • The morning will run quickly but calmly, moving through each service about 45 minutes each. Remember to soak up this time, listen to some music and enjoy the pampering with your favorite people, this time is so precious and its important to relax while things are calm.

  • Your Moment to Shine: I usually take the bride in the middle or second to last position on the list, this ensures you’re 90% done when your photographer arrives (and we will only have to worry about applying your lip color and staging photos).

  • Touch Up Time: The last 30-45 minutes are spent finishing everyone up, touching up and applying lip colors.

  • The team and I pack up and send you off to your first look or ceremony.

How I FINALLY cured my Cystic Acne and what I tell anyone I meet who struggles with it

I struggled with acne from 7th grade all the way until about 2 years ago. I had painful cystic acne along my chin that was so inflamed it caused my whole jawline to become swollen and double in size. I went on Accutane when I was 21 years old, only to have my acne resurface 3 years later with a vengeance, so I had more experience with acne than I ever would have liked to. In fact, the reason I became a makeup artist was because of how good I became at covering my own acne to make sure no one knew what was underneath my foundation. To this day, flawless skin is my schtick. I know how painful and embarrassing acne is, how it can make you hate your own reflection and how it can effect your self esteem and confidence, so whenever I meet someone while working who is struggling to calm their skin, this is the advice I give them, because I want no one to go through what I did, for as long as I did.

 

Here is the link to the post that originally started my healing journey. I didn’t follow it exactly but the following routine is my interpretation of it. (They suggest you "pop" or extract if you have Keratin plugs, which I did have to do, but I would suggest you DO NOT do this if you don't know how, it is too easy to hurt yourself or damage your skin).

 

When I was in high school and college, I saw so many dermatologists to try to fix my skin issues. One dermatologist diagnosed me with Keratosis Pilaris many years ago, which I have since realized manifested not only in an eczema like rash on my body but the acne on my face. I was all out of options and exhausted trying to fix this cystic acne and in desperation googled “Keratosis Pilaris Face”. There are almost no articles regarding that because for the most part, KP is only diagnosed as a body condition. But after reading this blog post and using its premise to PERMANENTLY (!) clear my acne, it has become apparent to me that this was the source of my problem.

 

Acne has many causes, including dietary reasons, hormonal imbalances or birth control, demodex mite overgrowth, as well as high oil production, so this exact protocol won’t work for everyone. You may need to change your diet and lifestyle in some cases but with me, I was already eating super healthy, lots of fruits and veggies, very little dairy, very little sugar and carbs so that wasn’t my problem. And this protocol is a very safe, very good way of dealing with your skin in general. So even if you’re still having issues, the likelihood is that it will definitely make the situation better, so it is 100% worth trying.

 

PLUS: its cheap AF. I spent thousands of dollars trying to fix my skin over the years but what finally did it for me cost me under $100, a little more if you don’t already have a clarisonic but its an incredible investment so do it. 

 

STEP 1:

Oil cleansing with an oil that works with your skin! This step may take a bit of trial and error. 

This is the MOST IMPORTANT STEP. As with low fat foods which have been pushed for years and made us fatter and less healthy, drying harsh ingredients in skincare have really done a number on our skin. Traditional wisdom tells us if your skin feels tight and squeaky clean it has no bacteria or dirt and therefore healthier, and while yes dirt and bacteria clog pores, tight and drying harsh cleansers are the OPPOSITE of what our skin needs and so it makes the situation worse. 

 

THE HARDEST LESSON TO LEARN : If it hurts, you’re doing it wrong. Nothing you use or put on your skin should hurt, sting, burn or irritate, even acne “solutions”. It’s the opposite of what we’ve been told for years but if you’re not more gentle with your skin, you’ll never be able to heal.
 

When I started Double Cleansing I finally realized how much I was abusing my skin everyday. I scrubbed and put harsh ingredients on and I undermoisturised and my skin was always “sensitive” because the barrier was completely damaged beyond repair. Using oil cleansing began the process of healing the surface of my skin without damaging it further. IF IT HURTS YOU’RE DOING IT WRONG.


I originally started with coconut oil (insert derms, esthis, and MUA’s yelling about how its comedogenic), which for me was and IS STILL helpful. These days I pretty much exclusively use Jojoba oil as a serum and as my preferred oil for cleansing, its the closest to human sebum and I have always been VERY dry, especially after going through Accutane treatment. If jojoba doesnt work for you there are many types of natural oils that could work, it just takes trial and error. I don’t moisturize with coconut oil but I do still use it to break down my makeup before I second cleanse. Argan was too light for me but for some people its perfect. 

 

Heres a list of oils to try (in order from lightest to heaviest):

Argan oil
Sunflower Seed oil
Sweet Almond oil
Rose Hip Seed oil
Olive oil
Avocado oil
Jojoba oil
Coconut oil

*Grapeseed oil can be used as a treatment oil for people whose faces overproduce oil but must be used strategically otherwise it can over dry your face. Generally start out using it every 2 days or so in the areas which get too oily like the T zone.

** Tea tree oil can be helpful if your skin is sensitive and red, as with rosacea or dry and patchy, but must be cut 50/50 with another oil like Jojoba oil, it is too strong to be used straight.
 

STEP 2:

Natural (oil) based cleanser

The next thing I did was switch from traditional face cleanser (read “acne” cleansers with harsh sulfates and stripping ingredients) to Dr. Bronner’s Castile soaps. These bar soaps cost $2-$5, and after spending hundreds to thousands on acne solutions I was so pissed off to find out that this worked better than anything I had ever used. The protocol I followed called for Tea tree bar soap, which I now recommend (because tea tree is great and another possible cause of acne as well as rosacea is mites that live on our face. Gross, I know but tea tree kills them so GOOD NEWS!). I however started with Almond Oil Dr. Bronners Bar soap because I love the smell. If you decide to use any of the Dr. Bronner liquids, PLEASE DONT USE THEM STRAIGHT, they’re too strong to be used straight out of the bottle and are designed to be thinned with water. I have heard of other people having great success with the peppermint oil soap as well and this has the added benefit of helping fade dark marks and pigmentation from acne. 

If Dr. Bronner doesn't appeal to you, make sure you're at least using a NON FOAMING cleanser, any type of cleansing milk, oil or balm which gently cleanses is better than most what most of us have been using for decades. 

 

STEP 3:

Clarisonic.

This step is self explanatory: buy one. They’re amazing. Splurge on this one thing only because they work great and clarisonic has so many different brush heads and they’re worth buying the real thing instead of skimping. I recommend the Mia 2 because it has a regular setting and a gentle setting in case the regular is too high for you in the beginning. I use a sensitive brush head. Use it every 2-3 days. One of the main things I see as a makeup artist is how much most of the people in my chair desperately need a gentle exfoliation. If you don’t exfoliate the dead skin off before adding serums and moisturizers you’re not getting any of that to work. you need to unclog your skin and turn over the top layer so that you’re getting effective results. AND DEAD SKIN CAUSES ACNE. (But remember, if it hurts YOU'RE DOING IT WRONG, I'm looking at you, ST. Ives Scrub users!! Put the apricot scrub DOWN and back away from the sink!)

 

 

STEP 4: 

A good moisturizer.

For me, this is the only step that really changes these days. I originally began with a nice heavy moisturizer from Philosophy that has since been discontinued. For anyone under 35, these days I usually recommend Fresh Lotus youth moisturizer, its very similar. Or Secret Sauce by It Cosmetics. Because I’m so dry I’ve been using Creme de La Mer this winter (which flies in the face of everything I’ve told you so far because it has mineral oil which is v bad for us but I digress) and it has made my skin incredible. For over 35, you need something thats going to give you a bit of anti aging as well, and usually need a heavier formula since we start to lose moisture and oil production as we age, and dryness is the enemy. For over 35, I love the new Dior Capture Youth or Capture Totale. Whatever moisturizer you chose just make sure your skin feels very moisturized. I always try before I buy, so get a sample from Sephora and see how your skin reacts before making the investment. And in general, a lot of people should go heavier textured than we’re used to. Most people need more hydration than they realize.

 

BONUS STEPS:

Acid peel

After my skin got a bit better, I began incorporating weekly peel pads into my routine, and it made a world of difference. Physical exfoliation from clarisonic, coupled with a weekly chemical exfoliation with a peel = youthful, bright, amazing skin. I love Philosophy Triple Acid Peel Pads, Peter Thomas Roth Unwrinkle Peel Pads and Dr. Dennis Gross Alpha Beta Peel Pads.

 

Serums

If you have any other skin issues like discoloration or hyper pigmentation, redness or lines and wrinkles, add a serum to treat those issues. Currently loving Dior Plump Filler Serum and Dr. Dennis Gross Ferulic Acid + Retinol Brightening Solution.

 

Eye Cream

Eyes get dry too. Use a heavy cream at night and a light one for day. Use a serum if you have very dark circles or puffiness. I always use Kiehl's Creamy Avocado Eye treatment.

 

SPF

Get a daytime moisturizer with SPF, learn from my (one) mistake. I’m a Cullen, I sparkle in the sun so I never go in it, but the one to two days I was outside last summer caused me to see some sun spots recently. Be smart, use daily SPF.

 

 

DIET & LIFESTYLE

Drink lots of water, like, almost too much water. Try cutting out all dairy and all gluten (if you have KP). Limit to no more than 20 g of sugar a day and reduce starchy carbs in general. Eat more green vegetables. Be mindful of what meat you buy/eat. Increase fish, oil and fat intake. Sweat more, it unclogs pores. NEVER WEAR MAKEUP TO BED. 

 

 

Disclaimer: I am not a Doctor or Licensed Esthetician so the above is just an informational post on what works for me, please consult a professional to discuss what will work best for you before starting a skin care routine.